Finding True Happiness
As a Blogger you have to be prepared for all responses and all scenarios.
We are interacting with people every day and now with social media, everyone has a voice. Reality is we are all different, it’s what makes the world go around. We can’t be all the same and think the same way, how would anything new happen?
So we learn to take the good with the bad, or at least we should. Blogger Elle Darby handled a situation poorly recently and it didn’t turn out so well for her. Google it if you missed it, it was entertaining. You really need to have a sense of humour and capacity to block out the negativity if you are going to be a Blogger.
I’ve always lived by the motto “You’re opinion of me is none of my business”. It has helped me with my sanity since I’ve had a profile.

You will have some who think it’s funny or get a kick from being nasty. Mostly though, they are just so unhappy and miserable in their own lives they want to bring everyone else down to their level. The happier you are perceived to be the more determined they become to show their lack of self worth.
As I push the delete button on their profile my last thoughts every time are “wow I feel sorry for you”.
As the saying goes, water off a ducks back!!
I often had conversations with my sons as they grew up about understanding the difference between being Happy and finding Inner Happiness. They are two entirely separate things. Being Happy is mostly a temporary feeling, Inner Happiness is a constant and lives with you. It’s why people will gravitate to you.
Finding Inner Happiness is one of the most important things you will ever do in your life.
Those who have found Inner Happiness rarely feel lonely.
Whilst Real Estate Agents have their detractors, and often rightly so, I really love the industry for what it taught me. One of those lessons is to put others before myself. Or maybe it just provided me the opportunity to do so.
Terri Irwin recently said of dealing with the grief at the time of losing her husband Steve “You can’t focus on yourself. You need to focus on what you’re doing for others and then you can start to heal.”
Wow, that’s so incredible that even at her most anguished moment in her life she would still be focused on what she could do for others. I have always admired her and if you’re unsure why I admire her, read the book My Steve, it’s one of my favourite books I’ve ever read.

To find real Inner Happiness is the ability to put others before yourself.
It’s the ability to consider the other persons perspective, accept their position, learn any lesson and not ridicule them for their belief. Too often the Australian way is to denigrate others, to shoot them down.
Early in my Real Estate career I was told “The more you put money first the more you lose you”. Still to this day I don’t know what my commission will be from a sale, not until I have to create the invoice which is months after they sign up with me. It’s not my priority, just the end result of a good process of looking after my clients. (I don’t sell houses any more, I sell the Real Estate Businesses)
Maybe Bernard Tomic could use a bit of advice along these lines?
I will say openly, we don’t give to charities.
Sadly it’s so hard to know where your money is going. World renowned Sydney brain surgeon Dr Charlie Teo recently resigned from his own charity totally disillusioned with where the money was going. He said, in this news story – http://www.news.com.au/lifestyle/health/health-problems/neurosurgeon-reveals-why-he-left-his-own-charity/news-story/7b05c3676d4b9fe67a52b63a205dfacc, that 98% of donations were going to the admin cost to run the charities. That means only 2% of donations actually goes where we expected it to.
Over a long period now Adele and I have looked much closer to home to find people that need support and you’ll be amazed when you do that what you find. You will have friends and family that are dealing with a crisis or know someone who is and deserves your support. That is where we put our energy.
Very few people even know what we have done over the years, sometimes even the recipients don’t know. We didn’t do it for any self motivated reasons other than it gives us Inner Happiness.

I put my Business clients first, always have, always will. I often give advice that is detrimental to receiving a sale but I know it is best for them. I’ve always felt it’s just the right thing to do. I’ll put that down to my parents, if I had a dollar for every time my mother said to me “Do unto others as you’d have them do unto you” I really could travel Indefinitely 
Our travel blog Indefinite Leave is our way of giving back. It’s part of my Inner Happiness. Adele and I really enjoy it.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m a long way from perfect. Every day on this planet I find I’m still learning, still trying to be a better person, a better husband, a better father and a better friend.
I wish you well for finding your Inner Happiness. If you haven’t found it yet, look around you at the people in your life. What could you do today to make someone in your inner circle feel better today for no reason other than to help them?
Try it, with no expectation whatsoever to receive anything at all in return and then feel how good it is to give joy to another person and make a difference in their life.
Ohhh, and next time you write a response on Social Media, consider the words you use, are they kind and supportive, could they be taken out of context?
Safe travels,
Kevin & Adele Hockey
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